Relations in Lines!

Human brain has/had been one of the fascinatingly perplexed part everyone wonder both in Scientific as well as in Spiritual world. Many a times we come across these sayings.,“It’s all in the mind”, “Nothing is neither good nor bad. Thinking makes it so” and so on. It’s all how we perceive things, especially when it comes to relation, many find it hard at times to handle a relation, though only few are good at it. So what is that kind of thinking which makes any relation tick for few? I don’t know so deep about the “How to maintain a relation,” considering the overcomplexity of individual’s thinking/perception, but i am good at knowing “Why relation’s break”. When it comes to me, I know well how my mind work when it’s about handling relation. Though I am a kind of guy who believes “Relations are to make and not to break,” at times I have/had to break in order to keep moving. When something is bothering, you can’t keep on dragging it for infinity right?

So this post is about how I co-relate relation i have with people around me and how generalized my mind is when it’s all about relation. I have heard many a times from lot of people, when asked “Hey who is your best friend?”. The answer is indeterminate “well all my friends are same. There’s nothing like so close or so best kinda”. Well but usually we all (yes I mean WE all) deep inside our mind have kept people at respective place and the center being ourselves. We don’t discuss everything with everyone though everyone is our friend. May be down the time the level of penetration may increase and some may get close. But sure we maintain limits and we never take it for granted with everyone. This is how I perceive the possibilities of relation. The way I perceived might be silly, but for me such a complex content is well understood with this one.

Line is a Dot which went for a walk. So does our life, the difference being we the dot’s walk through the time and leave the trail whom we are. Let’s take the case of you and me. Now you are the White and me the Black. These are the possibilities we may end up with. I don’t want to explain much. So let me pen down in nutshell and its up to you (to understand or get hyper confused).

CASE 1: You know, I know…

This is the most often seen case. At one point we met and through out our life we remain just like “I know you” and “You know me.” We stay in touch the way how it started and also ends the same way. Like the lanes on the rail tracks, they may not meet but they are always close to each other.

CASE 2: You know, I know so We know…

We met.Took some time. We came to know each other. Then finally at one point there’s no difference. You become my alter ego. Some say this is love. Ok, I am not ready for another argument This could be that kinda so called divine relation, if the line is not broken till one’s death.

CASE 3: You know, I know…Now We don’t…

This is hard break-up. We came to know each other. At one point there was absolute WE only. But considering anything can happen, something happens. We wish never to meet again and our path deviate. And finally there is just You, You alone and just Me, Me alone.

CASE 4: You know, I know but really WE don’t know…

This is the one I have come across many a times :-). You don’t know me and I don’t know you. But under one certain thing we came across each other and then you are gone, like the passing clouds. Then you are on your way and so do I. We may/may not meet again but still we remember that time frame what we shared. Just like those whom we met during a train journey. Absolutely no hard feelings.

CASE 5: You know, I know… better We know…

This is the complex one i would say. We met. In spite of differences it is always WE. But at one point when one of us can’t take it anymore, WE decide to depart. Depart is too heavy, rather maintain the distance in which we were comfortable. Though many may not accept this possibility, again I don’t wanna argue. But at least one thing in this kinda relation is that, there may be a hard feeling, but when they decide its worth having the relation rather in the field were they are comfortable, time will heal the hard feel. (Should i put “it really did healed?”)

CASE 6: You & Me better know not!…

He he he he…I hope u got it…Two minds with one mind having such an attitude which could not be tolerated goes this way. Whether its you or me, when any of our mind have such an attitude which undermines the basic nature of other mind, we decide better to stay away. Absolutely no hard feeling but neither single moment to cherish.

CASE 7: I know, but what?…

Here no space for you. Just Me. If I am the one of this kind, then I can call myself the most insane/demented person in this whole world. Many a times this happens. You know how? There are people out there who keep building a virtual mine field in a random manner while they being at the center of that mine field. They think, with this virtual mine field they have made in their mind, no one/relation can affect them. Alas, it happens so that one fine day they themselves wanna come out of this mine field but rather end up getting maimed by their own virtual mines. The problem is even when someone go for the help, knowingly or unknowingly they also get hurt.

These kind of people should realize its not possible to be completely independent. In a way or other, whether its small or big, we are directly or indirectly dependent on others and other things. To be dependent on others for everything is dangerous and wanting to be an absolute independent person is dangerous as well as stupidity.

I have met relations of all the above variations. Though at the end of the day I could/may figure out who stands were, I am totally unsure of tomorrow. Because change HappenZ. In fact as I was typing this many faces flashed in front of me, which took me on a time machine to remind me how that relation started/ended, for those which didn’t ended yet, how it is now and how I want it to be in future.

PS: Though i am good in knowing why relation break, one best shot which tells how to maintain relation goes like this… “freedom to do your own thing + time + space = makes a relationship work”…how true it is!